Some things about grieving

I came across this wonderful article earlier today. It really resonated with me so I thought I’d share it – see the link at the bottom of the page.

Like most people, I’ve experienced grief in my life. My Dad died when I was three. I left the country of my birth when I was ten. I’ve had a miscarriage and today I’m childless. I’ve been turned down for jobs I’ve had my heart set on. I lost my biggest client last year. I’ve lost money. I’ve lost trust. I’ve lost pieces of myself. And then, in 2015, my Mom died when she lost her fight against breast cancer. I was frozen. Life sped past me as I was suspended in time until I was forced to face my grief… ALL of it. It’s not something I journalled about on a one-week retreat and got over. It’s something I face every day of my life. It was hard in the beginning. Now I know it’s what makes me human – empathetic, compassionate, more understanding, less judgemental and more open to feel. In truth, facing my grief has made me a better person. I’m also clearer on what’s a priority and what’s just life’s crazy busyness. I’m more willing to do things because they’re right for me on a heart level and not because they make me money or make me cleverer or make me fitter.

Are you grieving something? A death? A friendship? Lost love? Lost youth? Lost health? The loss of a job? A home that’s no longer yours? Maybe even a lost part of your personality?

Maybe you don’t even know you’re grieving. Perhaps you just feel stuck in a specific moment in time. There’s something you can’t seem to move on from. It might even be something you don’t talk about anymore because others think you should be over it by now.

Let this article help you decide what to do next. But always remember, the grief you’re experiencing is YOURS. You can carry it with you for as long as you like. Let go of it only when you are ready. If you never feel ready, that’s fine too.

If you do feel ready to move through it, recruit support – from family, from friends and from professionals like coaches or psychologists. Navigating through the undulating paths of grief can be unpredictable. You don’t have to do it alone.

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