Get to know yourself, get to know others, then follow the platinum rule: Treat people as THEY would like to be treated. Yes, your parents didn't get it completely right with their golden rule: Treat people as YOU would like to be treated. It's about THEM not you. The golden rule is only a guideline … Continue reading The platinum rule works better than the golden rule
Did you know that we respond very differently to what people write than to what they say, even if those things are exactly the same? That's the result of a fascinating new experiment by UC Berkeley and University of Chicago researchers. This research shows HOW we interact makes a huge difference. It's best not to … Continue reading According to science, you should never argue with anyone in writing
The fourth industrial revolution is here. Are you ready? If we see our intelligence as one of our greatest strengths, especially at work, and artificial intelligence (AI) replaces that, then how will we remain relevant? For some this is scary; it should be if you're stuck in the rut of valuing your subject matter expertise … Continue reading As AI makes more decisions, the nature of leadership will change
Watch #LuvvieAjayi - a professional troublemaker - show others how to overcome their fears. Fear is the gatekeeper of the status quo. Is there something happening in your world that you don't think is right? If yes, realise this: Your silence serves no-one. Speaking truth to power shouldn't feel sacrificial, but it does. Do it … Continue reading Get comfortable with being uncomfortable… then speak out
Change is good. It's both unavoidable and necessary. But change isn't good when it's about changing others. It's frustrating. It's impossible. It's completely draining. We suffer when we try and change others (or circumstances beyond our control). All we can do is change ourselves. This is where our power lies. Be the change yourself and … Continue reading Be the change you want from others
It's people who make or break both reputations and profits. Hiring and people development practises matter. Values that are normalised by behaviour - wrong and right - matter too. A culture of integrity and ethical conduct isn't the words in a company's code of conduct; it's the sum of the behaviours of the individual employees and the collective.
In my experience, too many learning and development professionals are still ignoring the implications of neuroscience and adult psychological development when going about their work of developing leaders. This isn't to say they don't have the best intentions at heart. It just means they stick to what they know, to what has always been done, … Continue reading Learning & development are interdependent, but they’re not the same thing
Does your dating life - or just your life in general - feel like groundhog day (read: repetitive if you didn't watch the tedious 1993 movie)? Love, sex and dating are often venerated as 'the ultimate goal of life'. But how much of your quest for love is about avoiding being with yourself? Real love … Continue reading Searching for love can be about escaping yourself
According to Harvard Business Review, "Worryingly, leaders tend to do a poor job of evaluating their own dark sides, particularly as they gain power and move up the ranks. Some perceive their career advancement as an endorsement or encouragement of their bad habits. Eventually, however, those weaknesses may derail them, and perhaps their teams and … Continue reading Can promotions be seen as an endorsement of a leader’s dark side?
Followership really does matter. I think Maya Angelou highlighted this when she said, "Those of us who submitted or surrendered our ideas and dreams and identities to the 'leaders' must take back our rights, our identities, our responsibilities." Companies seem to be obsessed with leader and leadership development. But what about the followers? According to … Continue reading Followership: The forgotten side of leadership